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cant afford surgery but..

(6 Posts)
shelley72 Fri 03-Jun-11 15:37:57

is there ANYTHING i can do about my horrible empty saggy wrinkly skin and boobs? am still BF DD so i know thats not helping but i just ordered a new underwired nursing bra in the vain hope that it will work wonders, but my boobs are so empty in the top half it looks awful. i look really flat chested.

i am so ASHAMED of my body i cant look at it and dont want DH to either. it makes me cringe. im stuck with it arent i? i feel utterly depressed. i was a size 20 before DS 4 years ago, a size 16 between DS and DD and now am a 10/12. have lost around 35kg even tho i havent tried to lose weight but i feel i look a lot worse for it. its nice to be slimmer but my skin looks and feels too saggy for my body.

someone tell me it will get better please? or failing that suggestions as to how to hide it all smile

Finallygotaroundtoit Fri 03-Jun-11 20:22:54

Your skin will catch up.

I bet you feel healthier and look better,I'm sure your DH loves you just as much.

Think what an amazing job your body is doing - a few 'battle scars' are a small price to pay. As my nan says, you can't make am omelette without cracking eggs

wendihouse22 Fri 03-Jun-11 23:49:00

My should be proud of yourself, girl.

Your skin will catch up, to some extent. Your body is still at the beck and call of a baby. I know when my son finally stopped feeding, it was good in lots of ways to get my body back. Just carry on doing what you are doing now. Try to do some gentle exercise when baby is napping. Stop being so hard on yourself.

ThatVikRinA22 Fri 03-Jun-11 23:51:52

i would say see your gp - if you have excessive skin because of weight loss and if you have a sympathetic gp they may well refer you to see a plastic its really that bad could be worth a shot.

shelley72 Sat 04-Jun-11 07:03:08

thank you vicar i have seen a lot worse (on tv) so i dont think that the nhs would cough up to fix me, i think i need to do something to tone up a bit.
wendi i have honestly lost the weight without doing anything apart from having DS and DD and eating lots of cake which is quite scary in itself (i mean why now?). DD is now 1 and i am back at work and i dont exercise so thats completely my fault. i have been looking into pilates and as soon as time allows (ie DD doenst feed like a maniac inthe evening) i WILL go.
finally i do feel a lot better than i used to and yes DH still wants me i just dont like what i see.
i am hoping then that eventually my body will catch up!

CrispyHedgehog Sat 04-Jun-11 07:59:37

I'm in a similar situation after losing a lot of weight. My boobs are empty sacks but there is enough skin to fill an H cup bra! Take the bra off and I'm as flat as a pancake.

I did go and see my gp who was sympathetic and referred me to a plastic surgeon who has agreed that I need surgery to fix it. He said he will use existing tissue to create new breasts rather than silicone. In addition he will do a tummy tuck and also remove some excess skin from my arms and legs.

He wrote a report explaining the psychological and physical issues and I'm now waiting to hear if the pct is willing to pay for the surgery.

Go see your gp, you never know.

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