Hi! Really need some advice.
I have been with my partner for only a year. However we have been living together for 10 months of that time & I have fully taken on the role of step mother to his 2 girls.
Luckily for me I am already once removed in that his ex wife is not the mother of his 2 girls.
We have both been through some emotional upheaval with our divorces and so have his girls....firstly adjusting to life without their step mother & then adjusting to life with me only 6 months later!
Its been a HUGE learning curve for me but have taken to life with the girls fairly naturally....of course we've had our ups & downs while learning about each other but we have now found each other boundaries and are close.
BUT they do have bad behavioural problems which my partner has decided to remedy in a fairly drastic way....he's told them and their mother that he does not want to see the girls till there is a change!
Their mother, I belive, is the root of all their problems as they lack discipline at home. We see them only every other weekend so our disciplinary ways have little long term effect on their behaviour.
I feel my partner should be punishing their mother, not them. Yes we can do our bit when we see them once a fortnight but the major influence will come from a change in their day to day life.
However my concerns are falling on deaf ears and I am now being made to support my partner in a decision I don't agree with. While being made to feel that my short time in their life counts for nothing & that I have no place to comment.
I have no children of my own & I am only 26 but I am a young woman with an old head on her shoulders.
Am I right or wrong in how I feel?
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Spanish26 · 08/03/2005 15:19
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