We have our own topic now! It was always so hard to find our conversations scattered around under all the different topics, now I know where to find us.
How were your half terms (UK stepmums)? I had 2 teenage girls for a week who slept a lot, ate a lot and didn't make eye contact. They were alternately boisterously playing with their littler brother and sister (sofa cushions and toys all over the place for me to clear up) or sulking and skulking in their room. No one said thank you or helped unless they were nagged to. What happened to my 2 lovely, sweet, helpful girls? Will they ever come back? I felt resentful and hurt a lot of the time - like a simmering saucepan with the lid just on - and then they left with a couple of pecks on the cheek and a see you soon.
I feel so ambivalent. Part of me loves them like I used to, but part of me wishes they would only come back to stay when they are 18 and all grown up and civilized. I do understand what it is like to be a teenager, I was one myself after all, but it doesn't make it any easier. And I can't say anything to them because I know what the reaction will be - rage / sulks / huffing off back to their mum / wicked stepmother cow syndrome. So I put up and shut up and their dad gets it from me when they're gone. Not nice for him, poor man, as it's even worse for him - they are his kids after all and he gets the blame first for anything they're upset about.
Sorry - moan moan moan. Just getting it off my chest, feel better already.
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Cha · 23/02/2003 15:55
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