Context: DSD 10, been with her dad for 5 years and we're getting married this year. Do, and always have got on very well and no real issues in terms of her mum, relationship generally very positive. We have her Sunday - Tuesday each week.
The issues is that DSD got a phone for Christmas - her first and both us and her mum and her mums new partner have made efforts to make sure she doesn't spend too much time on it. It's worked to an extent, although she is slowly turning into that kid that can't put her phone down, but that's not the issue really.
It's that she texts me all the time from the minute she gets up, until the minute she goes to bed when she's not with us (except in school time). Not constant replies, but just messaging back and forth throughout the day. Just general chit chat, sends some funny pictures, talking about our day. It's been really lovely and until now I haven't really thought much of it.
Her mum has now text my dp to say that she's really unhappy with how much time she's spending on her phone and asking us both to make sure it's limited when she's with us. No mention of me, and I don't think it's a subtle hint or anything, but just a wider observation.
I'm aware that the vast majority of the time she's on her phone, she must be texting me. I have no problem with her messaging me, infact I quite enjoy her chat, but would it be sensible to take a step back?
I don't think for a second that it's only me she's texting, it'll be her friends too - so me stopping won't really provide a solution, just make her think i don't want to chat with her!
Thoughts?
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whatthehelldowecare · 24/01/2020 17:55
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