I have posted before but it seems whatever I do is wrong.
I have 2DC 15,12 from previous relationship DH has 3 DC two live away come holidays one DD 9 comes EOW.
So my problem is not with SD but with her mother DH has never been in a relationship with her never lived with her she was a ONS who got pregnant.
So when DSD comes we try to do things as a family all together be it a walk or trampoline park cinema or bake ect. But this seems to be thrown back in my face and issues arise that her mother texts DH saying I need to back off I’m not her mum ect. Then he had a text saying DSD don’t want to come anymore because she never gets time with her dad I’m always there my children are there despite it being their home. So I have backed off and DH spend time with his DD taking her out playing games ect just her while I’m taking my two to various places ect or doing things with them nothing major just walk or helping with homework. Now this is being thrown back at me her mother is texting DH saying I’m leaving her out doing stuff with my children with out her DD.
I really don’t know what to do seems I’m damned if I do damned if I don’t. DH is at a loss and seems to not stand up to DSD mum because she then causes more issues like accusing me of abuse or unfit to be around her daughter.
I really don’t know what to do anymore or how to handle it and I’m now starting to dread the weekends she comes because of the backlash I get. Take tonight he dropped her back at 6.00 by 6.30 he had a text saying it was unfair I didn’t take Her DD to the vets Friday night and she felt left out! It seems she questions DSD and jumps on anything ounce of information whether it’s correct or not.
Any advice would be appreciated as it’s really wearing me down and not once do I ever make my DSD feel unwelcome I treat her the same as my two.
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peonyfairy03 · 12/01/2020 19:15
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