Just looking for some advice/help pls, sorry bit of a long post 😁.
I’ve been with my bf for around 2 1/2 years and living together for 18months. I don’t have any kids but my bf has 3 from 2 previous relationships. His eldest is 22 and lives with us and he has a 21 y o who he hasn’t spoken to in a couple of years, his youngest is 9 and lives with his mom over 200miles away who we have every other weekend plus some school holidays.
Ever since I started dating my bf I have had some real concerns about his youngest sons diet. He’s a nice kid who can be extremely quiet and at the start very hard to get to know but I think we’re at a stage where we get on pretty well.
I’m up hours before my bf so would always offer him cereal (which it took probably a good 4 months before he would accept me doing his breakfast) so he has breakfast but after that it really is a struggle to get him to eat anything. He won’t eat any vegetables (not even chips!) or fruit and can honestly say what he does eat you can’t even call a meal. If I cook a Sunday roast all he will eat is a very small portion of meat and maybe 1 small Yorkshire pudding just dry no gravy which he will probably take the best part of an hour to eat, you can clearly see on his face he’s not happy about eating it. If we go out for a meal he will only ever eat a plain beef burger and if they make a mistake and put sauce on it he will burst into tears and act like it’s the end of the world.
Food he will eat includes
Cereal
Tuna / bacon or ham sandwich (nibbles at the middle so really 1/2 a sandwich)
noodles
Cocktail sausages
Chicken
Pork
Beef burger
Yoghurt
Chocolate of any kind
Biscuits
Toast
Cheese pizza
Plain Chicken burger
I look at the above list and it looks appalling and even a lot of the above he will refuse to eat because he says it tastes funny or it’s not the normal ones he has when it is he’s just avoided eating.
We try him with loads of different foods but he just says he doesn’t like it and I’m running out of things to offer him. Not that i do but if I offered him chocolate or junk food he would eat it straight away no issues so I no he’s hungry and I no he’s not completely avoiding food he’s just being extremely selective in what he eats. He’s not even refusing to eat normal food so we just offer him junk because we don’t, I think he would honestly go all day just on a bowl of cereal if we let him.
I’ve brought this subject up with my bf before but I think he is reluctant to tackle the issue as when we have spoke to my SS about what he eats it usually ends up in him getting upset and as we only have him every other weekend my bf doesn’t want the little time he spends with him ruined by upsetting him. I can understand why my bf is ignoring this issue but it’s really not helping and there is clearly something seriously wrong with his diet.
I did ask my bf to ask his mom what he ate at home as I thought he probably eats stuff for her and is maybe being awkward at ours, apart from the odd other thing he pretty much eats the same at home.
I really don’t know what to do, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Rockchic7 · 29/12/2019 03:24
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