I’ll try and keep this brief.
Ex husband lives 300 miles away. Does see the children every other weekend. This has been arrangement for over 4 years now.
Both my ex husband and I are remarried.
I am expecting my third child with my husband. Ex husband has no other children but is step dad to an 8 year old boy.
I understand that it is possible for a 3rd person, my husband/boys step father, to be able to have parental responsibility for my sons. This can be done either by mutual agreement with my ex husband or via a court application (which would cost around £500 and I understand it may be rejected).
Has anyone successfully done this?
I don’t think ex husband would want to do it mutually because his instant reaction would be that if their step dad is getting rights, so should his wife (aka their step mother).
My 8 year old is very switched on and says that if anything happens to me he wants to stay with his step dad. This is mainly because my husband has been there for both boys and basically filled the father role for the past 4/5 years. I’m not saying their dad isn’t their dad and he shouldn’t have a say in things, but he’s generally pretty away with the fairies and I honestly dread what would happen to my boys if anything were to happen to me.
I know it’s easy to say that I should just make these notes in my will but having looked into this in much detail, my ex husbands parental rights would override my will.
So the point in my long-winded post is has anyone successfully been through similar and any advice?
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Loveagoodpaxo · 06/11/2019 09:27
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