Hi all, looking for advice, really don’t want any uncalled for negative advice so this is going to be a long post unfortunately. Tried to post for advice briefly on another forum and got nothing but abuse as it was so brief. Been with my current partner for 5 years, living with each other for 2. I have a step song aged 8, and 2 kids from a previous relationship aged 11 and 7. We had a surprise baby 3 months ago, I was nothing short of devastated but he’s here, and the most amazing baby I’ve ever know! Absolutely zero regrets over our surprise baby. My problem is trying to come to terms with a combined family. My step son has major behavioural issues, he hits, nips, bites me and all my children including the baby. We try discipline but he has no interest. He has daddy son days every single week so we aren’t all taking his daddy away from him. We have my step son 50% of the week. Without sounding like a psycho step mother, I work, I go to college, and I look after 4 kids for half of every week. I also run to 2 different schools, in / different towns, just to make sure all our kids get to school every day. My problem is, the physical abuse from my step son towards my own children, and also the biological mother of my step son. She doesn’t work, doesn’t contribute to clothes, school runs discipline or personal hygiene. She sits in her house, shouts orders and my partner bows to all her commands. She is paid a healthy amount of child support although she only had their son 50% of the week, I personally off my wages have provided uniforms, shoes, clothes and 3 holidays which his bm has never provided. I’ve just recently found out by mistake, my partner has been giving my step sons mother, extra money, buying her stuff she needs all behind my back which is also on top of her child support she receives. I genuinely feel like the “other woman” an inconvenience to their lives, myself and my children, including our biological child, are being physically abused each week to the point we’ve been staying at my relatives when my step son comes and starts the abuse and I’ve now found out there’s also money being handed out behind my back! I work really hard to make ends meet, dad hardly contributes one penny to our household but happily provides for his ex and her household! I’ve tried to broach the subject which always ends in arguments which I do not approve of infront of children, but right now I have no clue what to do!!! Do I call it quits and leave and bring another child up alone? Or do I just accept this is our life now and put up with the abuse towards me and my kids and never question his money for his sons mother again??? Please help 😢😢😢😢
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