Hi everyone, Just came across this site today whilst googling difficult teenagers, wonder if anyone had any thoughts on my situation?
I don't have any biological children, mid 30's, divorced, a year into a relationship with the most wonderful man I've ever met. The relationship is perfect.
Our boy on the other hand is 13. He's painfully shy and rarely speaks outside the house. He's a straight A student, quiet and polite and excels at sports. He's got medals and trophies bursting out of his room, but my word has he got a foul temper. He has these "episodes" where he flies into rage, smashes things up and raises his fists to my OH. During these episodes I tend to sit in another room as I honestly feel way out of my depth. I don't feel I have any authority to wade in and even if I did, I'd be scared he'd turn on me. My OH is very patient, tries to calm him down but they can, and often have, lasted hours into the night, which obviously affects us all.
The past few days have been awful, he's been in a foul mood, not bothering to speak to us and it has kicked off a couple of times. I actually lost my patience and have shouted at him one or two times but since I have, this seems to have given him more confidence with his aggression towards me. I don't have any experience with parenting and am a general push over of a person but I feel like he calls all the shots in the house, like we're constantly tip toeing around him so as not to upset him...
We have tried to talk to him when we think there is something on his mind but he simply refuses to talk to us. He'll walk away or if we push too hard, one of these episodes kicks off. We've tried taking away his play station, his phone, docking his pocket money...nothing is a deterrent really
When he's not in a temper, we actually have a very good relationship where we chat about school, I help with homework, I bring treats home for him. He isn't affectionate but I wouldn't expect that anyway, just want to know if this is a common thing? Should I intervene? I'll be honest, I feel like ripping his head off at the moment .....!! but I obviously won't...
Also, should mention these episodes have gone on since before I was on the scene and biological mum isn't around.
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Tulip84 · 14/03/2019 11:26
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