I have been with my partner for two years. He has a daughter from a previous relationship aged 5 and I have a teenage son. He has his daughter most weekends or every fortnight depending on what the mother says.
I am beginning to feel like.l a secret as he never invites me out with him and the daughter and I could probably count on one hand the amount of times I have met her. It’s making me feel like I am not important enough to get to know her. He asked me to move into my place but I turned that one down as how can we do that, I don’t know his children?!
Sometimes it irritates me when he makes plans to extend his contact with his daughter without mentioning it or decides to do school run as though it’s a secret. Whenever the child’s mother wants a favour he does it but when he wants to eg take the child to a family function, or Wants her to eg sleep over at my partners mothers, she says no. He listens to every rule she puts in place then asks for my opinion. I have told him he is too soft with her or when I give advice he doesn’t take it so I have stopped giving advice. Then he accuses me of not being interested.
I just don’t like not being able to get to know his child. I don’t think it’s right. It makes me feel like he doesn’t want the child’s mother to know he’s moved on. He even took the child to an event he knew I wanted to see with my nephew. He didn’t invite us. Then he pisses me off and makes me feel annoyed. How should I confront this?!
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Applecrumble79 · 22/07/2018 09:34
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