So I have been with my OH for 26 years. He had 3 daughters then. (nothing to do with me btw why he split with their mum) The youngest was only 2 so I've basically known her all her life. We also have 2 children. His children are now adults with their own children. When they were younger, they spent every other weekend at ours and we also saw them in the week. Took them on holidays etc etc. The problem only started when they became adults. They have zero interest in their younger siblings. They have zero interest in me and very little in their dad. The only time we see them is if we invite them over for dinner. With their OH and children and us 4, that makes it 18 around the dinner table. When they are here, they don't lift a finger and just expect to be served. They let their children do what ever they want, including jumping on our sofa with shoes on. One of them sits and moans the whole time and drains every bit of energy I've got. I want them to be part of our lives but I hate how it is always on our initiative. None of them ever just nips in to see us, or their dad in particular. I feel sorry for my OH cos obviously he wants to see his children. How can I solve this? I've tried suggested meeting up for picnics in parks and camping weekends for all of us but no one is interested. I am really going mad about it and would love for someone to give me some sound advice!!!
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Ordinarymamma · 24/05/2018 08:27
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