I read something on a thread this weekend that really struck a chord but I’m not sure if I can really find the words to express myself. If anyone can put it better please do.
I grew up as the youngest of 6 in a blended family but with everyone living as one family. No other parents or homes involved. There was almost never any them and us. Both parents treated us all as equal. My step-mum massively improved my quality of life so my attitude to step parents is positive.
My DSCs mother loves to take a pot shot at my kids and me. Sometimes they are really random wtf kind of things, but sometimes they generate real anger in my kids/me. And it creates bad feeling towards her and DSC for my kids.
We have my DSC 50/50 and I know she has issues with me and seems to be competing for their love. They love her unconditionally-she is their mum and I am no threat to her and her status.
When my DDs saw their Dad I was always really positive towards his partners and massively grateful for the care and support they gave my DDs. I invited them to sports events, birthdays etc after relationships finished because they wanted to continue a relationship with my DDs. They were a loving adult presence in my DDs lives. And my DDs loved them too. So I view them as a positive.
So as a step-mum myself, my question is in your experience does the other parent (in my case DSCs mum) ever consider that their behaviour is damaging or detrimental to the other children in the blended family? And should they care? And as a very invested step parent is there anything I can do to improve the situation?
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Wallywobbles · 19/02/2018 13:06
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