So he obtained a court order with set times and dates as was one step forward too steps back with everything... All sorted or so we thought
Very occasionally on his weekend he has to work a sat morning till maximum 12pm. So DSD stays with me.. Which his ex has created about. But it's OK to let what was my home be the home for dsd etc. But as the court said what he does with his dd is his choice he's her parent and it's not causing harm.. So done and dusted
He or myself take his dd to her Saturday club. Which again is fine. We have no issues.. However we get told late Fri night that she has a show the Saturday to be prepared for.. Why couldn't she of given notice
Everything for sch, newsletters etc we received via email.. But things like sch photos they supply one copy to her mum and it's up to her mum to show us and let us order.. We asked she said no.!
School play. Is two tickets per child so In my eyes dp should go with his ex and have a ticket each. She's said no nanny is going!
Then today. The court order states in school holidays spring break is 5 nights not to be joined on his weekend (as building his dd up.)
Summer then going forward each holiday its 5 additional consecutive nights. Which either way would be Sunday to Fri (5) night then his norm fri to Sunday =7 in total.
Or would mean his Fri to Sunday 2 nights then keep her 5 nights from Sun to Fri.. Which was stated in court.
The court order does NOT state its not to be joined onto his weekend.
She has gone bat shit crazy today saying the 5 additional summer nights should include his 2 norm nights so would be Fri to weds!
So he's got to get a copy of the transcript and is going to contact cafcass guy to clarify, then if need be go back to court.
He has done everything by the book, never ever let his dd down. His ex booked a Saturday club knowing it would cut into his time with her.. Which imo she should discussed to check OK.
How would you go about trying to stay amicable? , every text has a please or thanks or if that's OK etc.. He gets ignored.
He's tried to give 8/9 months notice of holiday dates he has from. Work to have his dd, and he gets ignored.
And each time he drops and collects his dd there's always an audience, may that be a neighbour, parents, the newest boyfriend. All blatantly trying to be little in some way.
Any positive experiences with this sort of thing?
Genuine advice needed as this has been going on over two years.
We've thought about recordings etc but that seems too far. He's kept all texts, to show he gets ignored if needed and to show he's trying in every way to be amicable..
Does it get better? Or are some people just like this? Eden after two years!
I'm so confused as although my relationship with my ex isn't brilliant, but we've always been amicable I. E we both take DS abroad, we swap weekends if needed for whatever reason etc.
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CinnamonAndSpice · 10/12/2017 20:33
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