Just to clarify - don't wanna whinge about my ss, wanna whinge about his mum.
I was gonna name change for this but thought fuck it why should I. I post the good and the advice I wanna post the bad tonight.
I cannot deal with this hypocrite any longer.
Ss lives with me and dp now, but until earlier this year always lived with his mum and visited us on days/nights stipulated by her. These were to remain unchanged always and no reason would be good enough to swap these days/nights. Not even me going into labour.
However now he lives with us she is forever chopping and changing when she does and doesn't want to see him, and because dp is not an arsehole this continues to happen because he wants ss to see his mum and maintain a relationship with her. She says its for work but really it's because she's out on the piss or hungover, and she very cleverly tells ss that (he's 12) who then tells us. And yet we let it carry on for the sake of ss, even though she would have raised hell over it the other way round. If me and dp ever went out (not even on nights we had ss) she would text having a go because 'we must have too much money to spend if we're out again' - I can literally count on two hands how many nights out we've had in the past 4 years.
She also has not paid one single penny in maintenance as of yet. Nothing. No other contributions either. Me and dp replaced all his clothes and uniform (not including what he already had at our house) because it was all knackered, too small had holes in or marks on or whatever. We've spent a small fortune and for a lot of this time were paying maintenance to her for ss even though he lived here. Bloody useless csa.
Dp has always paid maintenance, what the csa have told him to, and bought things on top like uniform, clothes, paid for school trips etc. She would often ring/text him last minute asking for things, and kick off if he said no (which to be fair wasn't very often and only for the things like 'I want to buy ss an Xbox for Christmas will you buy it' erm nope!) yet she literally contributes sweet fuck all to her child.
I know for a fact she posts all over facebook about her perfect son and how she loves him and he's been taken away from her, when in fact it was him who told her he wanted to move out with absolutely no involvement from us!
I just really cannot cope with this idiot woman any longer and yet I know I will have to until ss is at least 18!
I'm just sick of her awful behaviour and her reluctance to have any responsibility to her own child and yet her friends and family and even dps family think she is the bloody victim! I feel sorry for ss having such a shitty mother. And yet I can't do a thing about it!
Ahhhhhh rant over! Can anyone sympathise 😂
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phoenixtherabbit · 14/05/2017 22:13
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