Hi! I'm brand new here and this is my first post so I'm sorry if I don't use all of the abbreviations!
I'm posting here as I would like some advice from people who aren't just going to say "I told you so" or "that's just what it's like".
I have been with my partner for almost 3 years. We do not have children together but he has a 4 year old from his previous marriage and a 13 year old who isn't his but he raised him with his ex so he is his daddy in the boy's eyes. We are not married or engaged but we do live together and have had lengthy discussions about getting married and starting a family of our own. Not that it probably matters but I'm 30.
He has a good working relationship with his ex. We have the boys every other weekend from Friday to Sunday and always try to make it as fun as possible while at the same time getting all the boring chores done (we're both teachers and work very long hours so only have the weekends to sort ourselves out!) She is currently pregnant with her new partner.
I have always had a really good relationship with the children. I was introduced to them in a really good way and we have always got on. The boys are both really well behaved and until now, I genuinely couldn't have asked for ask for better children to be involved with. The youngest one has always been very attached to his dad, which I can understand as he only gets to see him every few weeks. I've always been involved though, and felt like I have been wanted.
Recently, however, the youngest one has just started ignoring me. Literally pretending like I am not there. He doesn't react when I speak to him, he always wants to hold his dad's hand and if he is carrying something I'll offer my hand and he'll always say no. I'll offer to put his shoes on and he'll ignore me and ask his dad. All little things like that. I know I'm the adult here, I know I should just keep trying but I'm tired of trying. And it's causing friction between me and my OH and I don't know what to do.
Has anyone else had any experience of this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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invisible1 · 01/04/2017 19:26
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