I feel terrible for my dp but what can he do. He has a court order for a 50/50 share. He's always been the main carer though, the stable one in both his girls lives. Their mum loves her girls I have no doubt about that but she just doesn't seem to be able to cope with them. She wants them until she has them then she can't cope, she keeps moving to different areas, different partners mixes with people who are known to do cocaine. She has a number of debt collectors after her etc etc. Dp has always been there for them getting them to school, picking them up, parents evenings on his own, dropped everything because she suddenly can't have them on her weekends I could go on and on, just giving you a picture really. Suddenly mum is single again and moving to our town she says so she can be there for her dds which is good but we also know she is actually moving away from a lot of angry people she has crossed and as I said before debt collectors, fraud squads she could even end up in prison. She is now wanting her dd2, dd1 is happy with the 50:50 arrangement.
Dp is beside himself he obviously feels rejected by his own dd after everything he's done, he has a court order, he's worried about the mums unstable life style but then he doesn't want an unhappy dd either or for her to resent him. He said he's willing to compromise and let her go for an extra night in the week and see how it goes, but that's not enough. Should he let her go or use the court order and fight for her?
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Dsd wants to live with her mum, dp devastated!
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Rizzo03 · 10/02/2017 10:03
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