Hi everyone, just wanting a bit of advice of something that's been niggling me....
My partner has a 2 year old son, I have a daughter. We've been together over a year now and waited about 10 months until we introduced our kids. I felt it was the right time to introduce my daughter and her dad had no issues with it.
However when it came to me meeting his son, the mother didn't make it easy. Please understand I do understand this, I'm not trying to put her down. I know as a mother, having another women come into your child's life is not an easy thing to accept, especially when they are only 2. I was very understanding of this. She wanted to know everything about me, my criminal background, job, how much money I earn etc etc. She wanted to meet me one on one to check I was ok to be around her son. It made me feel incredibly uncomfortable if I'm honest, I've never felt anxiety like it.
Anyway fast forward 3 months and me and dps son get along great, we are forming a little bond and he's now started giving me the biggest cuddles when he sees me, he's a sweet little boy and with no pressure on it we have become little mates.
Recently we have been having dps son more often to help out his mother. She has asked if we can have him Saturday - it is not our Saturday to have him - and dp can't as he is on a stag do. The mother turned round and said if my dp cannot has lo then it is my job to have him. I was quite shocked by this. If I was to have dps son for the day then I know he would be absolutely fine, I've looked after him for a couple of hours here and there while dp has done something work related and he's been fine and not phased by me looking after him at all.
I don't however think it is my job to have him for the whole day and night. It's the way she said 'it's my job' I have my own daughter, she is my job. I probably would of been more than happy to do it if she would of asked if I could have him, not expected me too.
It has made me angry as it wasn't that long ago she was giving me such a hard time about me being around her son and now all of a sudden she's happy for me to have him for the full day and night.
I'm very new to this step parenting thing so I'm not sure if I am over reacting or not. Like I say, if she would of asked me I would of probably agreed but it's the fact I'm just expected to do it. Dp also agrees with me and told her no I will not be able to have him.
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fi775 · 28/10/2016 10:02
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