So, I'm not quite sure if this is in the right section but as you've all been in this situation I wanted to get the best advice.
Myself and my DP have been together 5months so far, we both have children from previous relationships. However due to my circumstances my DP won't meet my DC anytime soon, however we have discussed me meeting his DC if our relationship continues and have tenderly thought that Feb half term would be an ideal time for several reasons. However I'm quite nervous and hesitant about a first meet as they have already had '2 stepmum types' in their lives previously. One lasting over 2years and another lasting 9months (both times living with them) . They also have their mother too who they see fortnightly (DP has full custody, so I see him when he doesn't have the DC) The DC both know about me which is a great start, but how when I meet them do I make it plain to the DC that I don't want to take their mum's place but I'm also not trying taking their dad away from them?. This is something the eldest has struggled with, with regards to my DP and his previous relationships I gather. I obviously want to be a part of their lives and me and DP see this as a long term relationship. I just want to start on the right foot with being a female role model (kind of step mother figure) I'm not sure if any of this makes sense, but basically what would be the top advice you wish you'd been given (and hope it's ok I posted here)
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PrettyPurpleTulips · 04/10/2016 19:13
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