Me and my partner live together. We have three daughters, one each from a previous relationship and one together. His daughter is two, mine is three and ours is 6 months old. We had to go through court for access to his daughter and since December we have her on a Saturday every fortnight.
Ever since she has came his family always turn up uninvited. I understand they have every right to see her but they completely ignore our other two children. The last time his daughter came round we were going to a kids party and his mom decides to invite herself not even knowing the child who's party it was just so she could see her granddaughter.
Every single time she is here they all turn up and it is crowded, I haven't had chance to bond with his daughter, I can imagine she feels overwhelmed with everybody there and doesn't look twice at me. As soon as she leaves they all go, and they do not bother to come and see my kids unless his daughter is here too.
My partner has told them that we want time for ourselves and to be a family but they don't seem to care. His mom has been slagging my partner off with his brother and they're both saying how they don't care what he says and that they are just going to turn up.
I know I don't really have a say in this as they are his family but I will not allow for my kids to grow up feeling pushed out. Any advice on how to handle this? I'm not saying they should never come round but they should respect our wishes and let us be sometimes.
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xhappyfeet · 04/04/2016 23:24
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