Hi. I'm new here.
Signed up as had tough week that is getting repetitive- and I should know to ignore but feel worn out.
I have 2 DS from previous marriage - one is at that adolescent stage - 15, the other has his own challenges - ADHD.
ADHD child is non violent but maybe 2 year behind in maturity but on par academically- just rather hyper if not medicated.
DH has been supportive and fantastic with them both -have been together 5 years.
Then there is DSD who is now 7. She has had an interesting up bringing with her mother - a number of men, but now a step dad but 9 homes later (only 2 with DH) and she is a very clingy lil one.
We used to have her a lot - more in a month than her DM - but now she has a SD only EOW.
She has always been wanting attention, tantrums etc ... Which I just thought as I had boys I just wasn't used to. I had always longed for a girl so was looking forward to the hair, dresses, parties. Instead I got lots of mood swings (is that even normal for one so young?)
I always felt we were giving DSD the stable environment that she needed - and she always said she never did some of the basic things like going to the park with DM.
DH seemed to always adopt the Disney practice with her (but not my DS thankfully) which always annoyed me and the early days was always what caused any argument we had.
New SD has lots of money so now DSD has been showered with all the things my 15 year old wants - this has caused tension.
So the background has been set.
So this last week we have had her dumped on us again as DM and SD have gone away again - its approx every 10 weeks at the moment. So our routine at home has had to change as all 3 go to differing schools and DH goes to work at 6am - so its me that has to manage it all.
So he we go again, a juggling act.
This time DSD is is more demanding, rude, and lying (which is new) and then mega meltdown - she wants to go home!
The big lie was that DM & SD were at home - but she knew they were on holiday - again. DH bent over backwards as he believed she had been lied to - but it turns out she knew exactly where they were!
She can be a lovely child - a joy and the girl I always wanted and then like a flick of switch she is just horrible! And I feel guilty, I am walking on eggshells and really resent DH and feel sorry for my 2DS.
Is this normal for a 7 year old girl?!And I'm Not used to it?
She really pushed me away and treated me as the wicked witch this time - is it a phase?
DH was blaming me for her behaviour which she knew!
I do feel like we are going In cycles and each time it's getting worse!
A bit of advise please as I thought I knew how to deal with most things! (But I can't seem to put a foot right with DSD, DH and 2DS!)
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glittertoes72 · 15/03/2016 20:44
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