I am in a new relationship with a lovely divorced man with two young children.
The divorce sounded messy but there was nothing out of the ordinary I.e violence, adultery or anything of the sort just a bored frustrated housewife and husband.
When I met him I quickly realised her behaviour was outrageous, like that of a spoilt brat. They have a very good child share agreement with a whole week on and off for each parent so totally equally.
She never picks up the phone when he rings on her weeks so he speaks to them rarely or when she feels like it and then she'll call with no notice at all in his weeks.
She demands things in texts and tries to make him feel like he should be buying things, she is obsessed with money.
She used to let him video call them and now is lying about all her devices being broken, she told everyone in her mum network he emotionally abused her yet she gave him a black eye when together!
She tried to get her own daughter to steal something from the house recently claiming it was hers, she made the same daughter hand out invites for a party a week after her actual birthday at mummy's house and then Told her daughter people only like invites from mummy's. This was on hand over day and the day my partner was going to sit down and do invites ( she knew the child was going to have a party at daddy's) the list can go on its incredible.
I've told him to not react and be fair but firm about things and she's gone slightly mad. She can't handle him not being at her beck and call and rings him incessantly ( 8 times in a row ) for things like a spare pair of tights.
He's just got the spare birth certificates back after 12 months of asking and when he politely asked if he could come to the party next week she said no and slammed the door in his face.
She really is a very unpleasant woman and I worry for the children as she's so nasty about him to them but I'm starting to want to get involved and tell her to grow up as its so unnecessary and stressful. It's almost like she enjoys it.
She's very obsessed with money and 'being middle-class' and even though the house she's in was paid for by him in the divorce she's still insisting for money for 'special' shoes for kids as they have narrow and flat feet.
I don't think she's adjusted to her new lifestyle very well as a single mum, financially more than anything!
Do you have any tips on how to deal with it? He's had enough and so have I.
Thank you
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Robin981 · 04/01/2016 22:13
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