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MsColouring Mon 04-Jan-16 19:42:36

DSS said to me last week as I sent him into the shower that his mum would make him have another shower when he went back to her's as she doesn't like the smell of our house. I tried to let this one go, especially as this was said to me on the morning of our wedding (yes! we got married last week!) but I have taken offence to it.

I am aware my house isn't the cleanest but I do my best working full time as a teacher and dh has struggled to help recently due to recurring health problems. But...dss's mum's house isn't a picture of cleanliness either according to dh.

I do think that every house has it's own particular smell and when my own dc come back from their dad's house I do notice the smell of their dad's house on them but it soon wears off - I am fairly indifferent to the smell.

And in other news... the day after our wedding dh's ex contacts his aunts who were staying in the area to ask if they wanted to meet for coffee - they tried to fob her off but she was quite persistent.

Anyway, I know I need to chill but having a rant helped!

iwantgin Mon 04-Jan-16 19:47:51

Good timing eh -the morning of your wedding.

Yep. You will just have to let it go. Being a Step Parent isn't always easy.

I used to hate the smell of DSSs clothes that they brought with them at the weekends as smelt so strongly of fabric softener.

Rant away. smile

Sunbeam1112 Mon 04-Jan-16 22:09:06

What an odd remark to make to a child. I have neer noticed my child have a smell upon returning from his dads. Sounds like shes being a spiteful bitch for no reason. I can understand why you would be frustrated.

SoupDragon Wed 06-Jan-16 12:55:12

Can you find out what shampoo and shower gel he uses at home? I can smell a difference on DD if she's showered at her father's house. I never mention it though.

The only smell that bothers me is if clothes have been washed - they reek of highly scented conditioner. I loathe this smell everywhere though. Actually, the DC used to smell of this just by having slept on bedding that smelt of it.

Could it be these smells rather than any kind of unclean one?

Bluelilies Wed 06-Jan-16 13:19:56

Well congratulations on your wedding!

How old is DSS? I'm assuming that if he didn't just laugh at his mum for saying such crazy things, and still needs reminding to have a shower he's maybe 10/11ish. In which case your problem might soon be solved by excessive teen boy odour masking any amount of 'house smell' he could possibly bring home grin

The washing power smell is the only thing I ever notice on my DC when they come back from their dad's on the rare ocassion he's actually washed their clothes If it's really bothering DSS, then you could ask him what powder his DM uses, and as suggested above, buy him the same brand of shampoo. If it's not bothering him then leave his DM to her crazyness own issues.

hesterton Wed 06-Jan-16 13:23:08

I'm sure it's a 'different' smell, not a 'bad' smell. Step children have a minefield of tact and diplomacy to negotiate - it's not surprising the odd bomb goes off.

louisaglasson Wed 06-Jan-16 14:16:05

Are you sure it wasn't a shower-avoiding tactic on his part? grin

Congratulations on the wedding. You need to change your username now to MrsColouring!

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