I'd appreciate some advice on something that has just happened as whenever my husband and I discuss his children we usually fall out. Back story is that we've been together 8 years, married for 4. We were both previously married for 10 years to other people, I have one surviving child from my 1st marriage, he has 3, and we have one child together. My child and our child live with us, and his 3 children stay with us regularly.
So, the 3 DSC have just gone back to their mums, around 20 minutes ago. They have been here for 5 days during which time I have cooked, tidied and cleaned for them. They all received generous Christmas gifts, which they all seemed to like. The older boys in particular (17 and 14) have spent most of their time on the xbox, watching films and on tablets. In short, they have had a nice time. However, all 3 have just walked out the door without any comment to me. I don't expect thanks, but a 'bye' would be nice. Then, having forgotten something my husband popped back. I told him that they hadn't said goodbye to me or their sister, and he said he asked them if they had said goodbye, and all answered that they had. So I said not to send them back in as I didn't want to make a big deal of it. As he stormed out he commented loudly enough for me to hear 'well, you just have'.
My DSC very rarely show affection - the older 2 have never ever hugged me and the youngest always turns her head away should I try to kiss her (although she always comes for a nightime kiss along with my daughter). This has also happened before, about 6 months ago after a week long stay, so I know we will end up arguing about it. I feel gutted that I have done everything I can to make them comfortable but they don't even say goodbye? Should I just ignore this or should I discuss with husband?
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sauvignonismydrug · 03/01/2016 13:51
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