I have four DSC aged between 12 - 18 who are with DH 6 days a fortnight.
Problem is DH and I don't agree with regard to DSC and chores. I'm of the opinion that at their ages they should be pulling their weight but they do virtually nothing, they will usually take their plates out to the kitchen after dinner (this was after me nagging) but that is literally it. I'm not bothered about stuff that doesn't affect me e.g untidy bedrooms but I don't see why they can't help with simple tasks e.g lay the table, stack the dishwasher, walk the dog, leave the bathroom clean after they've used it etc. They have to be nagged to bring their school uniforms down from their rooms for washing - I think they should get one reminder then sort it out themselves if they don't bother. DH still does the morning school run for DSC4 (who is in high school yr8) then pays for a taxi in the afternoon because DSC4 doesn't want to get the bus.
This impacts on me because it means that DH is run ragged trying to keep on top of everything. I do help him out but I feel resentful because he wouldn't feel so knackered all the time if he got the kids to do more stuff for themselves/the household. He gives them £10 per month pocket money each but phone allowances, gadgets, sweets, cinema trips, toiletries etc are all provided on top of that.
Their mum makes them do a few chores and it frustrates me that DH won't do the same - he agrees with me in principle but nothing changes. This isn't the least of my worries but I think it's the most easily fixable. However part of me thinks poor kids having separated parents and two houses, this is normal teenage behaviour, cut them some slack.
Are my expectations unrealistic? Am I being harsh?
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SonicThePorcupine · 16/11/2015 14:33
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