My ex and I have been separated for just over 5 years, divorced for 2. I have had a new partner for 2.5yrs, he has had one for a year. We have two DS's 10 & 5. The youngest has a party this weekend which I have organised and paid for. ExH has bipolar disorder and is very up and down, during one of his, 'up', times when we got along he agreed to do games with the other Dad (it's a joint party) however, for the last 3 months he has been very anti me to the point where he's blocked my number and I am, 'allowed', to send one email a week detailing what the boys have been up to and that I have his parents (he lives with them) number in case of emergencies. He said I was sending too many texts with regard to the children (three a week?), hence he blocked my number. He says he will only phone if our eldest son is allowed a mobile to which I've said no, I have a mobile and we have a landline. He's been a bully for the last three months and really difficult about absolutely everything to do with the children. He sees the boys EOW. Up until about three months ago we had an amicable relationship, he would come in for coffee and we would chat about what the boys have been up to. He has admitted his DP is, 'funny', about me.
All the games have been organised, food has been booked, party bags bought. He asked last weekend when his partner and her eldest son could come (he's 12) I said on this occasion no because everything is booked and our eldest son already has a friend going. (my partner and his sons aren't going) but next time of course. I have met his new partner once, for about 30 seconds. She seems to think I am bitter and jealous. I'm not. I then get an email last night saying, 'We're all coming to the party, if you don't like it that's your fault', she has four children from 9-14.
It's going to be really awkward and I'm just not sure how to act. Just be happy and smiley? blank them? She must know I don't really want her there yet she is still choosing to come? I wouldn't if the shoe were on the other foot? I'm worried about how the boys are going to be, it's meant to be a birthday party and the atmosphere is going to be crap...
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DLCC · 12/05/2015 10:21
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