Hi everyone,
My situation is terrible and I am being torn apart inside. I have step-children, all over the age of 12 and my son who is aged 3. The child I wish to talk about is the one that is 12. She is the one I have the toughest time with and honestly I have come to a point where I wonder if I should open Pandora's box and tell my dh about some very serious verbal abuse towards our son. I caught her making a repetitive threat to him: I am going(!) to kill you. My problem is this though, out of all of the children we have she is the only one who can't do wrong in his eyes. He has her on a pedestal and will instantly defend her when I catch her in wrongdoings that have been far less serious then this (sabotage, theft). He doesn't defend the other kids, he will listen to me if I catch them doing something then and take things from there. I will need to add that while she said these words I was originally in the kitchen cleaning and their father was outside the house. I had only just walked to the front room when I heard what it was she was saying and how she said it. The hate in her voice, the venom was intense and I believed every word she let out of her mouth. She managed to tell him this 3 times before she heard me coming. I had to make a choice there, make matters worse for my son by backing her up that what she had said was dangerous, despicable and you name it, it all fits the horror of what she threatened him with or quietly tell their father that she had said the kill word to our son and that he was to advice her not to do so. I chose to let their father talk with her about words she is not allowed to use around our son, but I didn't tell him what she had said to him. I then talked with my son, who asked me questions if he was to be killed. I denied that he was to be killed along with myself, daddy and the remaining siblings except for the 12 year old. He didn't ask for her, but he did looked relaxed and happy after this so I probably did the right thing in regards to him. But I didn't do the right thing keeping this information away from my dh, and not making her take responsibility for what she had done to him. Looking at a frightened 3 year asking Kill me? is absolutely heartbreaking. But I am at a loss, because I know this will create hell, but I do not trust her around my son any more and.. I am in hell no matter what I do. Keep quiet and watch her like a hawk or tell him not knowing what he will do. Help!
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whirlwinds · 14/12/2014 18:39
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