Small rant

[TheJingleMumsRush]

DH asking me to get dsc Xmas gifts as he has no time. Iv'e said he should do it online. He things I should do it as I know what they like to. I don't, they have everything you can think of so have no idea. I have done ds and think he should do his kids. I'd be more inclined to help if he was agreeing with me that they should help around the house, I suggested a small piece of house work last contact and DH said it was unreasonable of me! Ones a teenager and the other in juniors fgs!

[pictish]

Yanbu. What a lazy bastard - he just can't be arsed shopping and reckons wifey can step up and do it for him!
Nope!

[InFlagranteDelicto]

I hear you! Raise you dss' mum deciding she's going to stay away for a few extra days, and only telling dp this at the weekend. Errr, not on he says back, the agreement has always been changeiver on the 27th, we now have plans with family that include dss, ans you are being unreasonable to try this on. that's how it is, she frequently pulls tjis one, but will never be flexible for us.

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Haha! True, I've have got dsd something as I knew she'd like it and was online anyway. What pissed me off more is it's ok for me to do everything for them but I can't ask them to push a Hoover around!

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Oh dear In, I'm luck in dh's ex is super flexible and reasonable.

[FunkyBoldRibena]

'How is it ok for me to do everything for your kids but I can't ask them to push a hoover around? You need to step up to the plate husband, otherwise I need to reconsider my options'.

[wheresthelight]

I agree wholeheartedly!! if he wants you to do it all then he needs to ensure that they help Out. in no other family situation would half the family get to act like they are in a hotel

[daisychainmail]

My DH is not making a great effort with my DSC's presents either, meaning he will have to buy them the vastly overpriced things they've asked for because he has no other options.

I say to myself that they are continuing the habits of their old family life (overspend with little pre-thought/sentiment) and that's their business. Sometimes people get stuck in a rut with certain family members. He's probably just being how he's always been with them.

[wheresthelight]

Dp has been really good this year wrt dsc's presents - i have done the buying as I have gone when he is asleep (he works nights) on days I knew would be quiet but we have discussed it and he had lots of ideas that I then had to find or order online with his card!! however when his dad asked us to get the kids presents from him dp insisted on coming and choosing and made me stand in smyths toys for hours staring at various bits of plastic tat before buying them in tesco cos the offers were better!

[ChristmasSparklee]

Men! I usually end up getting every xmas present and card for my family and HIS! The only present he will buy is mine, some years I end up getting that myself but tbh that's because I'd rather the money got spent on something I want. If it was left to DH he would go out on xmas eve and just get a pile of gift vouchers for everybody.

I'm not in any way saying this is how things should be but it does seem to be a man thing, I genuinely do think that most women are better at shopping than most men.

Actually though, to give him his due, this year he has made some suggestions for presents for DSC.

I've bought them a few things each but we've now ran out of ideas. I'm leaving it now, if they moan that they've hardly got anything off us then they can blame their Dad.
I'm sick of buying them stuff, it goes home and never comes back again, sometimes gets sold on ebay by their mum, and then they moan that they don't have anything to play with at our house! arrghh!

[slkk]

Ah dh the same and doesn't really do presents. If left to him the dsc would have empty stockings! However, he does other things and dsc generally pull their weight so not complaining. This year he came in very pleased having bought one gift for dsd, but it was exact the same as something I had already bought!