DP and his ex were split long before I met him, nothing to do with me.
At first, once the ice had broken his kids were fine with me, polite and friendly. Now all of a sudden it's like they resent the air I breathe. They resent the holidays I have, they resent the house I live it, they resent the things I buy - I think basically they feel cheated and feel like all this should be "theirs".
Problem is, I work full time (unlike their mother who doesn't know the meaning of the word) so I don't feel guilty, I word hard for what I have yet it feels like they expect me to feel guilty and even DP sometimes tries to imply that I should feel guilty about enjoying life whilst his kids suffer the consequences of their parents split.
"Oh their house is tiny and crap, they're not used to that, and here you are living in this big house whilst they struggle ... " I fucking pay for it!! I won't feel guilty about my house.
"Oh they never get to go abroad anymore (their mum won't take them and won't let us take them either) and they have to watch us jetting off on holidays, how must that make them feel? well sorry but I won't feel guilty for that either. Just because their mum is lazy doesn't mean I shouldn't enjoy the rewards of my career.
The latest one is that we've arranged a camping trip for the end of August. I was quite looking forward to it until I say the way DP has tried to sell it to his kids:
"I'm taking you and your brother away camping in August". No mention of me or my kids who are also part of this - because he knows full well his kids (or rather his eldest) won't want to go if he knows I'm going.
So I'm obviously not welcome on this trip (despite the fact that I'll be financially contributing to it) and I'm not really welcome around the house during access weekends.
I'm sick of being expected to feel guilty because his kids lives changed. That was NOT my doing yet I'm being made the scapegoat for it. His eldest is almost 19 ffs, isn't it about time he grew up a bit?
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Step kids resent me and by the looks of it, DP resents me on their behalf
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StarklyDoesIt · 23/07/2014 15:38
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