My dsd is nearly 8. She comes to us (me & DH) EOW Friday-Monday.
She lives with her mum at her mums parents.
Mum is often absent. Preferring to spend time with her bf and his son. She's away from the house 2-5 nights per week. The GPs look after DSD.
DSD has kind of accepted this but I know she misses her mum. There has been the odd meltdown where she's told her mum that she wants to spend more time with her & mum then says she will make more effort, spend more time with DSD etc. this lasts a couple of weeks & then she's back to vanishing all the time.
DSD is meant to be with her mum next w/e (mothers day). We made a Mother's Day card today & she seemed really sad so I asked why.
It appears that her mum has told her she's going to watch her bf's son play football next Sunday so won't see DSD on Mother's Day. By experience we know this means she won't be around all w/e. She'll go to bf's on Friday & come home Monday or Tuesday. So DSD won't see her on Mother's Day.
What can I possibly say to DSD? DH won't speak to ExW because he will just get abuse & screaming / crying. The GPs won't speak to us because they believe I am OW & split them up (actually she had DH beaten up in a pub car park, that's what split them up!)
I just feel so sad for DSD. she usually accepts her mum not being around but she's really upset about Mother's Day.
What can I say to help?
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Germgirl · 23/03/2014 12:32
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