Hi All,
I have been with my partner now for 6 months he has 2 children who live with him full time from his previous relationship.
The reason they live with him is that their mum is an alcoholic and manic depressive who has attempted suicide a number of times.
Since the start of our relationship she has repeatedly let the boys down saying that she will have them and then not turning up, when she fails to arrive they are both obviously very upset and worried that she has tried something stupid again.
Last night being another one of those nights - when asked why she had not arrived she literally just replied saying 'I am too pi**ed'!
Last weeks excuse was that she has taken too many valium but her response was 'i love you too much to reply' - yes i am very angry! she has lived with someone for the last 2.5 years and i am pretty sure that if he knew she was sending texts like that to her ex he would leave.
My question is on the grand scale - how do we deal with this situation? but to break it down...
Should he allow the boys to still go round there?
How do we deal with the fall out of yet another episode?
Should i say something to her about the constant let down of 2 great children and the inappropriate texts?
Sorry i have ranted hope you can make sense of what i have said!?!?
thanks
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sloopyj · 18/03/2014 11:53
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