Just need to vent...have had the weekend from hell. DSS (7) is generally lovely but is so dippy sometimes and is going through a phase where he alternates between not listening or downright refusing to follow instructions. DH is unfortunately convinced that DSS is an angel and thinks I'm being way too harsh on him, a bit of outside input would be good!!
Basically this was my last weekend before going back to work tomorrow after mat leave (I'm a teacher). I planned all my lessons on my day off on Friday and deliberately left my planner and resource folder in my car so it was already packed for Monday and I wouldn't forget it.
So, Friday night, DH picks up DSS, all ok. Saturday morning DSS wakes up and has pulled everything out of his weekend bag and strewn it all over the floor. He has to drink a certain amount of fluid each day as he's not dry overnight yet, but refuses to drink even 1 cup. We need to get out of the house so I give him a time limit to drink, get shoes and coat on and get out of the door. When the time limit is up, nothing is done. I remind DSS again. He does everything instead of drink. I ask him to drink again while I put dd into the car. I come back and he's playing with dd's toys. I get angry...but according to DH I'm overreacting. Fine. Let him wee in bed again then. (The drinking during the day makes a HUGE difference to DSS, literally the difference between flooding the bed and staying dry.) But it's unreasonable for me to care or try to do anything about it, apart from change the sheets when he inevitably has an accident due to not drinking enough during the day.
Then we get to where we're going. DSS asks if he can take my folders in to the sports hall as he needs to lean on something for his drawings. I say no, they need to stay safe in the car. DSS grumbles but goes in to the sports hall.
DSS gets some chocolate out of a vending machine and asks to eat it in the car. We both say no, but he eats it anyway and it goes everywhere as he's managed to drop loads and sit in it. But that's not his fault apparently.
This morning DSS comes into our room shouting that he's bored and wants to play. It's 6:15 and dd has literally just got back to sleep after a horrible night teething. I am absolutely knackered and DSS knows that he must not disrupt anyone before 7am unless it's an absolute emergency. Being bored is not an emergency but for some reason he decided that this rule was not worth thinking about today and woke dd up who is then inconsolable and will not go back to sleep. DH wakes up just long enough to tell me to take DSS downstairs, give DD breakfast and not to be angry with him. Then goes back to sleep.
DH then comes downstairs to make some pancakes and heats the plates up really really hot then dumps them on the table in front of DSS. DSS reaches out to grab one so I quickly tell DSS not to touch the plates as they are way too hot and will burn him so he immediately turns his hands over and plonks both hands palm down onto the pile of hot plates. Then moans that they have hurt his hands. And DH comes in and tells me not to get angry, it's not DSS' fault, these things just happen...
Then tonight whilst packing the car I find that DH has used it so much there's no petrol left. I won't have time to get to a petrol station that's open in the morning when I leave so I have to fill it up tonight and clear out all the mess left by DH and DSS. Then I look into the back and none of my work is there. After a few phone calls I find out it's sitting in lost property in the sports hall as DSS sneaked it in there without me seeing and managed to leave it behind.
So tomorrow I'm going back to work after 9 months with some crappy lessons I've scraped together tonight from what I can remember. I'm going to be rubbish. But I'm apparently very unreasonable to feel angry with DSS as it's not his fault, according to DH. Aargh!
Please help - I just feel that I am grumpy with DSS all the time and I hate being like that. But I feel that he is deliberately choosing to behave in a really difficult way and I am suffering from the consequences yet am being made to feel that I'm unreasonable for feeling angry and frustrated about it.
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