I've posted before about my DP and his two sons (16 with special needs and 18) had to name change as my laptop 'forgot' my old password.
Basic backstory is that DP is obsessed with DSS1 and will do anything for him, he'll cancel plans with anyone else for him and he'll bugger up everyone elses time to suit DSS1. He allows DSS1 to dictate what happens on access weekends (dss2 gets no consideration) and he allows DSS1 to call him last minute demanding a lift from an hour away and he'll just run off and do it.
Well dss1 has refused access weekends now for 3 weeks in a row. First week he went away with his girlfriend, 2nd week he said he was ill and this weekend he said he was staying with his girlfriend. He doesn't let us know, he just lets dp arrive to pick them up and discover from their mum that he's not there.
So - DP will do nothing with DSS2 if dss1 isn't there to enjoy it. It's like we only bother organising anything fun if dss1 is here. So for the past 3 weekends poor dss2 has been stuck watching tv all weekend. This weekend DP had decided to take them to see Wolverine at the cinema but because DSS1 didn't come, dp refused to go saying "we'll go next week" (in other words, we'll go when dss1 is here). How is that fair to dss2?? Sunday afternoon DSS1 texts saying "can you pick me up (from an hours drive away) asap please". DP immedietely jumps to attention and runs off to do it (despite saying we wouldn't bother taking dss2 to seaside as we should save the petrol."
So dss1 doesn't want to come on access weekend but he still wants daddy's taxi service? yet dp STILL can't see that DSs1 only wants him when he wants something?
I can't believe how he just abandons plans to do anything with dss2 if dss1 decides not to grace us with his presence. I feel so sorry for dss2. Another thing is that he basically leaves me to look after dss2. Sunday afternoon he was like "can you go and watch scary movie with ds2?" errr why don't YOU go and watch it with him??? god forbid you drag yourself away from the pc for 5 minutes.
Last week he accused me of making dss2 feel unwelcome here. Pot. Kettle.Black. Just sick of it. It's fucked up.
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DP's love affair with DSS1 strikes again
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Gloriapiano · 29/07/2013 09:23
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