I'm getting married later in the year, my partner has two kids from his first marriage who I [obviously] want to get along with but due to the situation I'm struggling...
- I'm autistic so I struggle to talk to or form bonds with others.
- I'm an only child with no experience of being around kids.
- I'm in UK they're in US, I visit 2 weeks every other month.
- There are slight cultural and language differences.
- Partner only has them a couple nights per week.
- Ex is a psycho so may bad-mouths in front of the kids.
It's understandable that I've not formed a bond considering how little I see them, but at the same time I worry that because contact is so fractured that it could mean we'll never 'bond'. Generally speaking I either feel comfortable talking to them straight away or it never happens...hopefully that's not the case in a family situation like this. I feel protective of them, it's just talking to them without it feeling awkward that's a problem.
I stay out of any discipline - the girl can be very bratty sometimes and it annoys me that my partner lets her get away with so much, but otherwise they are really well behaved. I'm obviously no where near a point where I can show any real authority over the kids.
On the plus side the kids are awesome...
A 10 year old boy who is autistic (thus less pressure for me with him), and an 8 year old girl who is a typical popular chatty girly neurotypical (totally foreign to me). Both are smart, polite, well behaved, protect each other...and I always thought siblings fought but these two are best friends...I mean really, they're just so sweet with each other