My partner will have been separated and divorced from his ex for 2 years. We plan to introduce me to his kids at some point in the future. He has 4 DCs (eldest is 15, youngest is 8). We met after they divorced so I am not 'another woman' or from an affair. I do not know his ex (we've never met and she does not know about me currently).
My partner and I are committed to each other and intend to marry and build a life together. We are taking things very slowly and considerately. I also have children but much younger and we have had many discussions already on parenting/house rules/expectations...but it's difficult as can't really predict the future reactions.
His DCs are coming to terms with their parent's separation and the parents seem to be handling it amicably in front of the children. However, there are some things I've seen, mentioned from my partner (and also from his children) that their RL mother is suffering from depression and not coping well ie. crying in front of the children, ready meals in the evening, not getting up or dressed in the mornings etc. This may be of no concern but it is something I'm wary about as I don't want to put pressure on his children more than necessary. She does not work and takes care of the children (they live with her).
The children seem to be good children and as well adjusted as they can be considering the breakup. They are doing well at school.
Do you have any tips for introductions to his step children? Any lessons learned? Any advice? Again, there is no rush but we are thinking ahead and trying to be considerate of everyone. Thanks for reading.
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CookieDoughKid · 14/05/2013 23:51
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