Since DsD started having contact with DP and I again, the DSC's mum has re-launched her campaign of alienation - she's quite blatant about it and openly admits to DP that she tells the DCs that she doesn't want them to see/speak to him but that she will always 'give them the choice' whether they want to or not.
Last time she did this, DSS wasn't as badly impacted as DSD - with some youth counselling he learnt to deal with his mums disapproval. This time he's older (9), and because DSD is no longer affected by her Mums attitude, the focus of the alienation seems to be on DSS. He's really struggling now. He seems to be convinced that his Mum will somehow find out if he 'enjoys' spending time with his Dad and he is detaching himself from the family more and more. He's no longer prepared to go against his mums wishes and refuses to speak to the counsellor again; he is almost paralysed by fear of 'making a mistake' in his Mums eyes, even when he's with us.
I'm sure it won't be long before DSS 'opts out' of contact with DP - with his mums blessing and encouragement - but at least this time, DP has some hope that contact will resume when he's older like it has with DSD.
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NotaDisneyMum · 24/03/2013 14:29
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