Hi All
I guess this is a general parenting question really, but not really interested in a 'flaming' off 'real mums' on other boards for overstepping boundaries, being a witch or a danger to children ...
My DSD is 5 and in Y1 at primary school. Last year, at parents evening (I didn't attend, but OH relayed the jist of it to me!) DSD's teacher suggested that although DSD is doing really well in school she struggles with trying new activities and refuses to enter into games that she may 'lose'. I'm guessing races, competitions, tig ... things like that.
It's also behaviour that I've noticed at home, and I think it stems from her mum being very over protective and treating her a little bit 'princessy'. Eg, at DSD birthday parties the games are always rigged so DSD wins!
Anyway, to try overcome this I've tried introducing fun things like matching pairs games, snap, pat ball, kerplunk (!) and other games that I remember playing as a child - sometimes she wins, sometimes she loses. I even tried a non-competitive game of skipping with a skip rope but she wouldn't try it because 'I can't skip'. If DSD even begins to feel like she's going to lose a game the tears start and she won't continue with it, which makes me feel really bad but surely learning to be a good loser is just as important as learning how to win?!
DSD is an only child and as I mentioned earlier, really quite pampered by both her mum and (maternal) grandparents. (To the extent of ridiculous behaviour like carrying her around if she doesn't want to walk!) OH doesn'y really see DSD's behaviour as an issue, and just ignores the tantrums when she loses but I think this is a bit of Disney Dad creeping in!
Should I continue to encourage competition, or just step back and let her be?!
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TheBreadstick · 03/10/2011 14:42
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