Anyone else ever hear this? :(
I looked after her during a local bank holiday while DH, her mum and her stepdad all went off to work - the last time we did this, we had a great time together.
For the most part, she was good. But then decided in the afternoon that despite going to the pool, going to the park and going to the library that day, that she was bored, getting out of the house was boring, and staying inside watching TV all day was a much, much better thing to do. This escalated later to lofty, one-word commands ("High School Musical." Full stop!), and just general snottiness (I put a blanket over her for watching said DVD and get "Can you do it properly, please?"). And when I said "You're not the boss," got "I thought Daddy was the boss."
Had a wee vent with my partner when he came home and realized 1) I am indeed going straight back to work when I have my own babies and 2) I have probably been trying to be her friend rather than her parent, and perhaps that is why she sees me the way she does. But when I first met her, I tried way too hard to be her parent and I think came across way too harsh - she is sensitive, bursts into tears when you are the least bit cross with her, and told her father last summer that she did indeed believe Daddy loved HappyWanderer more than he loved her.
Anyone else struggling with that balance? Does it get easier?
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HappyWanderer · 28/09/2011 14:09
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