Please help me get a healthy perspective on this: My 13yr old daughter is irritated a lot by my partner. She says she likes him, but he winds her up no end. (He is a wind-up merchant and he does it to everyone.) She's highly strung and sensitive anyway, and as I said, he's a clumsy wind up merchant. There is warmth between them, and he genuinely cares deeply about her & looks out for her in many ways. We've been together 3 yrs and have a baby together. I just feel stressed a lot of the time that he rubs her up the wrong way & then she's irritable (well she's irritable anyway). In my relationship with him I'm very happy, and he's a kind, loving man. Do I just have to accept that this is how it is? I've talked to him until I'm blue in the face, and he says he'll try & change, but he can't see he's doing it half the time. To be honest I think at the moment it's more her being stroppy, but the effect on me is the same. I have moments when I feel like I'm a bad parent for being with someone that she doesn't get on perfectly with. Do I just have to ride it out? Btw she sees her Dad, but isn't particularly close to him since he remarried.
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