Hi,
Ive posted in legal to get an idea of whether I will be allowed to move, but I think I will. However I know ex will (understandably) be unhappy. Any ideas on how I can make it easier for him (well and me so I dont have to battle it through court .. already being doing that for 2 years over contact)
Basically .......
My company is doing a restructuring. They want me to either move to a different office or take a lesser job and pay cut.
I cant afford a pay cut, so am looking at relocating. It would be 2.5 hours (150miles) from where I live now. Ive thought long and hard about it, and I know Ex will not agree. Im pretty sure about it.
Other factors (not sure if relevant)
- I nearly suffered repossession earlier in the year, so if made redundant, or take pay cut I can basically wave goodbye to my house.
- I am suffering heavily from anxiety and receiving treatment.
- My mum and dad (who currently do the majority of my childcare whilst I work) are willing to relocate with me
- Ex is currently not having contact with the kids, but this is about to restart up again via CAFCASS supervising at contact centre
- Oldest DCs father is supportive of the move.
- It would likely not happen until next year (possibly april) so hopefully contact would have moved on a bit by then. I would be proposing working towards alternate weekends. Ex to collect from me and I to collect back from him. Until he was having overnights, I would propose that 1 visit he comes to the new place, and the other I drive them to him and then drive them back with me.
- Schools are just as good as the 1 DCs at currently.
- I would ideally (if mortgage company) let me rent my house out and rent somewhere at the new location.
I think its unlikely DCs could live with Ex. 1 is not his biologically, although they do have a relationship which i would like to continue. He lives with his fiancee and her mum and brother in 3 bed house, so nowhere for DCs to be.
I understand it will be hard for him, but I dont see that I have a choice, just wondering how to portray it as a positive, given that he sees the worst possible slant on everything I do.