For anyone who can remember back to Feb this year, I had a dilemma regarding sd and her graduation. Briefly, dh's ex wife refused to attend her daughter's graduation IF DH ATTENDED! They divorced (she had an affair and refused to give up her boyfriend but wanted her dh to stay and keep their lifestyle going). That was ten years ago. I came along 4 years after their split. We are now married....dh and I, being ludicrously happy.
So, there being a "spare" ticket (you only get 2 allocated) and sd's mum refusing attendance, I was asked to go. I was delighted as I get on well with this lovely young woman and would be very pleased to be there. At that point, sd was still hopeful her mum would change her mind and said she would apply for any spare tickets. Again, her mum said "no" she simply won't go if SD's dad (now my DH) goes. So, extra ticket not applied for.
Now, two weeks before the event. All extra tickets gone, sd's mum has said she wants to go. It was assumed that I would give my ticket to her, as it were. Dh would go on his own, exW would go on her own and they'd spend the day separately. I agreed to this (as sd obviously wants her mum AND dad there, even if not speaking). However, dh has said this is not acceptable. He says his ExW has been manipulating this situation since Feb this year and that despite repeated requests, she has refused to go.
From my end of things..... I arranged for my ex to have our son for 2 days to cover the event. Bought a new frock and was really very excited about the occasion. Now, I don't want to go. I want sd and dh to have a lovely, special day. Take lots of photos and enjoy the occasion. My lovely dh is not happy with this.
As for his exW..... She has, in my opinion, surpassed herself in terms of manipulative childishness and I do not give a fig about her ridiculous behaviour. The woman devastated her (then) husband and family with a 3 year affair with a man who went back to his wife. Enough said, I think.
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LaDolcheRyvita · 17/08/2011 09:37
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