Anyone else got a DP who does anything and everything their ex wants?
DP is currently driving 200 miles a week just running his kids around to clubs etc, we have them living with us for 50% of the time at the moment too, it is supposed to be a third of the time.
We are in debt despite DP's quite large salary because he pays double what he should to ex wife. His kids ask, the money gets given.
I haven't seen my DP for more than half an hour at a time on our own for over a week and won't do for the next 10 days.
On the plus side, I am getting time with DS on my own sometimes now.
Things did get better between us and I thought things were good, but with hindsight, that was because his ex wife was pulling her weight for a while, but things have got silly recently.
DP just says he wants to see his kids everyday. So every evening he is off out and only re-appears when its tea time or bed time. Sometimes he makes an "effort" to pop back for half an hour in between the running around but I'm so annoyed with him, I find something else to do anyway. Sometimes he has to work late if he has a meeting and he finds time to go out with his mates at least once a fortnight too. I know he thinks because we live together, he can see me anytime but doesn't seem to understand that all his time is filled with other things!
I feel a bit like a small child stamping her feet because she isn't getting attention but then I remember that his ex wife is getting exactly what she wants while putting her feet up for another relaxing evening / weekend with her DP without having to lift a finger to go to work or drive her kids anywhere, or look after them.
I've name changed in case I'm being followed about on here, but regulars will know who I am.
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thaichickencurry · 24/05/2011 13:13
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