DS (13) has autism/learning difficulties we've just accepted over the years .. that this is who he is, and I have not really felt upset about it, because, well he's just him.
For the first time the other day I actually got upset. I have to wash him, he won't sit down in a bath, and he won't have a shower. He was just stood there in the bath with this stupid hat on, that I have to put on him because he won't have water anywhere near his face, me sopping wet I think I get wetter then he does lol, he was actually laughing, (for once he usually fights me) and I was just thinking, bless him :( he's starting to go through puberty, and I'm still having to wash him like he's a toddler .. I just feel really sad and I was thinking, what if I still have to do this when he's a man. I keep trying to get him to wash himself but he won't he just stands there flapping he doesn't seem to understand what I'm asking him to do, he'll sometimes wipe a tiny bit of soap on his stomach but that is it.
I feel like a right wuss. I have never really felt like that before.. I think it is because he's growing up, but he doesn't act like he's growing up.
I did talk to DH about it at the time, but I don't think he really understands why I'm upset although he does worry about him (mainly about what would happen if we both were not here) but he just said 'well .. we knew it would be like this.' This was the day before yesterday and I'm still getting upset about it, can't seem to pick myself up, I seriously do need to get a grip though.
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Flowerfae · 21/07/2018 11:16
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