Ds is 12 (S/mLD and ASD very demand avoidant) and I am struggling with keeping him ( and I) safe. He can be lovely - good natured, affectionate and even gentle, and is happiest when out of the house and busy or active. We had a lovely day at a local farm park in the holidays when his behaviour was exemplary. But currantly every thing routine is a battle from getting him ready for school ( which he can theorectically do himself but would still be in his Pjs left to himself) to tidying up the huge daily mess he makes. He reacts against everything that must be done.
Dh is away some weeks and often ds becomes even more challenging, with deliberatly controlling behaviour and play which becomes very intimidating( from growling/snapping like a T-rex to jabbing pretend swords in my ribs). I took his play sword away and yesturday it was a real knife (complete with butter). He seems to have hit the manipulative/lieing/stealing/silly stage at the same time as pubity! In addition I think the higher demand and very much lower support at senior school (sn but more MLD orientated than he junior ASD school) have added to his difficult behaviour at home. I also fear that the playful but very unpleasant intimidating behaviour will get more aggressive. He has a talent for annoying people with the behaviour they least like ( and react to).
I do not know how to calm things down and get the routine and control back in the house. Mornings are particularly difficult along with homework and independant self care.
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magso · 25/04/2012 09:33
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