Anyone here who can share their experiences or advise me please? I'm a single mum of twin 8 yr old sons. One of them has always struck me as 'different' and because of various things like little eye contact as an infant and onwards, liking for lining up toy vehicles, obsessional interests in various unusual topics, phenomenal memory, difficulty getting on with peers, I had him assessed for Asperger's at age 2.75 and then again at age 3 and at age 6 (latterly privately). The first assessment simply noted some social/ emotional problems but at interview/assessment he was deemed OK enough. The second and third assessments resulted in him NOT diagnosed on the ASD or with Asperger's and I was very keen NOT to have this diagnosis.
However, at age 8, he is more and more different from his fraternal twin. He goes to a school for high academic achievers with lots of 'geeky' boys there too and has had a friend since age 5 who probably fits the criteria for high functioning Asperger's. The two of them stick together and my DS calls this other boy his best friend but they don't 'play' together. They also have little in common, as the other boy is a whizz kid at Maths and my son has unusally high functioning at Literacy skills but a big dip when it comes to Maths (another reason not to diagnose Asps, I think?.
He is clearly in the right kind of school for him, where his differences don't show so much. But I'm worried about his future, as an adolescent and beyond.
The reason I'm writing this is because he has never fully met the Asps criteria but I have this theory that if you are very able in other areas, you can use that intelligence to appear more able in those areas of weakness, like socially. It's almost as if he's been 'lightly touched' with Asperger's but would either be on the bottom end of that continuum - ie not quite like other children but not quite sully Asperger's.
I guess I'm wanting to know if there are other parents on here with similar children and how things might look therefore for his future? I worry about soical isolation. depression, anxiety, being ostracised, managing indendent living/ University/ job etc.
Anything that anyone can share or any resourcse anoyone can refer me to would be helpful. Many thanks.
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Solo2 · 06/11/2009 10:40
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