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does anyone else have to avoid certain words?

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sodit · 19/10/2009 12:52

ds1 (language delay asd?) 3 is driving me bonkers if he hears the word school. He signs for it if i say no or later, he makes an uh-uh noises like wrong answer and signs school again.Its like the signing equivalent of mum can i have a rabbit mum can i have a rabbit. I do now tend to ignore him after the 5/6th time but i dont like to, I used to ask him who we were going to see at school and he would shout the name of his 1-2-1 but when i ignore him he shouts his version of donna at me. Does anyone else have to speak in code around their ds swimming is another word to avoid as well.

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5inthetomb · 19/10/2009 12:55

Not sure I get what you mean, but love the iea of your DS1 signing repetitively for a rabbit .
We avoid saying hair wash in front of ds2 as he gets really upset about it.
We also avoid saying park or funfair as as soon as he hears them, he won't stop until we go to one! Although the funfair one is a bit of a harder one as there isn't one locally!

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sodit · 19/10/2009 13:05

sorry that was really awfully put: he is signing for school but him keep repeating it reminds me of that advert mum can i have a rabbit cos he just does it relentlessly i think in the hope i will give in. He can be running around like a complete loon if you call his name he seems totally unaware if i mention school whilst speaking quietly to his dad off he goes

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misscutandstick · 19/10/2009 13:17

well its good he actually enjoys it!

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BriocheDoree · 19/10/2009 14:05

We have the opposite problem - words we have to avoid because she gets upset if she hears them. Like if you say to DS (2, NT) "Look DS, there's a train!" you will get a litany of "not train, not train, NOOOT train" from DD. If you don't say "OK, DD, not train" she will be in tears. There's a whole raft of words like this that REALLY upset her. But then she says not to anything, even things she wants. "Do you want juice, DD?" "NOT juice......JUICE JUICE JUICE".

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sphil · 19/10/2009 14:28

crisps...biscuit...chips...ice cream

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sarah293 · 19/10/2009 14:30

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lou031205 · 19/10/2009 14:36

shops...park....church....preschool....car - too many to mention.

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pagwatch · 19/10/2009 14:52

god yes.
Stop. Listen. Shhh. Be quiet. Move


Any words that are used to gain complaince drive him crazy -regardless of the context.

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BriocheDoree · 19/10/2009 17:50

Yeah, but Riven, eventually they pick up what you're saying in French or German as well...

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anonandlikeit · 19/10/2009 19:36

Yep, as his understanding has improved we have to swap for longer words that eh doesn't understand.
So "DH are you going out tonight" is now "DH will you be vacating the premisis this evening"

At least then we have a hope of gettign him in bed befre dh nips out for a pint!

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tibni · 19/10/2009 20:16

ds (asd + co morbids) is now 8 but when he was 3 we had to talk in code. He also had a thing about the word "circle" - you just couldn't say it without ds shouting his version of "triangle". dd, 5 at the time, was really into Lion King and used to walk around singing "The Triangle of Life!"

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ouryve · 19/10/2009 22:11

We have to talk in ever more cryptic code around DS1, since he perseverates on certain things. Currently, any talk of halloween costumes and after school football are totally banned.

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sphil · 19/10/2009 22:15

Oh yes - we call ice cream 'les glaces' in our family (DS2 can only have non-dairy kinds which makes life difficult when out). DS1 now asks for 'les glaces' as a matter of course! And has learnt to walk five paces behind while eating it, occasionally dodging behind the nearest tree.

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