DS is 4 and is due to start fulltime primary school in January (we deferred him for a term). He is on the spectrum ever so slightly but one of the main things he struggles with anxiety over new places. You can imagine my worry and his stress about starting school then!!
I have been taking him into his prospective classroom every Monday and Friday morning for 5-10 mins before we carry on to playschool. Teachers are great and very encouraging for us to do this and he is now really happy to waltz in there and come out after 5-10 mins but this is WITH ME!! This is however making all the teachers and his SENco (at playschool) struggle to believe me that he has this anxiety thing going on.
I have fought for him to be taken by playschool to his new school without me. This is key because with me he is soooo much better but that will change when I go to leave him there. Tears, stress and anxiety will kick in big time and they will see a new boy who is almost impossible to console (upset not violence.)
Anyway, this morning SENco at playschool tells me she has arranged for her and another lady to take DS to school for an hour after lunch on 2nd Nov and 9th Nov (+ poss other sessions too) to help him settle in without me. Got what I wanted but its now breaking my heart into pieces that he is going to lose the plot when he is told this is going to happen. He is going to be so frightened . I need playschool and school to see this so they can learn and understand how to help him but I feel so mean putting him through this. He hates Mondays with a passion because he has to stay for lunch so we have huge tears and upset when I leave as it is so put that with going to school later on that day he is going to be a mess.
Do I warn him? If so, when? Before the 2nd or on that morning? Or do I not tell him at all which spares me seeing his scared and upset face and the clinging on but does that hurt him more int he long run?
Ohhhhhh this is so hard...... Please tell me I have done the right thing arranging this for him....
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Starting school - got what I wanted for DS so why am I still so worried??
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Barmymummy · 07/10/2009 10:07
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