To cut a long story short - am a long term mumsnetter but name changed.
Have a new baby 6 months who has been referred to specialist in developmental disorders. Doesn't smile much, no laughs, no giggles & has low tone. I am trying to deal with all that.
At the same time my ds1's behaviour has become more & more difficult in an odd way. Without needing to discuss this I have realised that he has autistic traits. I know this & don't need to talk about why I think it. I have always sort of known he was different and I now feel sure.
I feel run over & clinging on to my life as it seemed to be which has been smashed to pieces in a matter of weeks. My dp doesn't want to talk about ds1 with me. He says he is absolutely NOT autistic & is angry with me for suggesting it.
I feel that I need to get help. These are what I need:
- how do I start with ds1 getting him help? I want to know as he'll be starting nursey in Jan. I want to know how to maximise his positives & not to react to the negs which I find bloody irritating at times.
- Can I dream of him with a "normal" life
- I want some help for me. I'm bowled over & sinking at times. I want peer support & to be able to talk freely & even laugh.
This is in the smallest nut shell I can manage as ds2 is screaming
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