I have name changed for this but I'm not a troll and I'm not trying to start any trouble.
I have posted here before about this issue but it has got worse. Please don't think that I'm an interferer or a muddler into other people's problems. I really am concerned and want to help. I can't point out the specific relationship between myself and the other people but it is a close one.
My close friend/sort of family member is the stepfather to a little boy who will be four in a few months. I have many concerns that this little boy is autistic. I have thought this for over a year. The mother (who is not a close friend of mine but is someone who I do socialise with because we have the same group of friends) does not want to hear that her son has any sort of special needs (which I can understand). However it is now getting to the point where she and others who know the boy cannot ignore it anymore.
She constantly cancels any visits from the HV who has now become very angry. Her DP (the stepfather) convinced her a while back that he needed to se the HV and after a long process the child went to hospital to have his adenoids and tonsils out and gromits put in because they thought he couldn't hear so well and his breathing was a little difficult.
The HV (who was at the hospital) had said that she will leave it a while after the operation but if there is not much change he would have to be assessed at an autism centre. The mum is unresponsive to this and just moans that she has to take time of work and she doesn't want to go to these appointments because they are pointless.
I have never ever mentioned any thing about special needs to her as I know she would be angry and then push me away. If her or her DP ever have any questions then I answer them as much as I can. I don't know a ton about autism but I read about it for hours every day and have been brought up around it because my brother went to a special school and my mum is a special needs teacher.
I am getting more and more concerned about the boy because I know that early intervention is the key. I don't want to interfere in their lives but I find myself thinking about the boy every day and wondering how I can help. I am also concerned about the parents getting into trouble because of the cancelled HV visits.
Please help. I'm not sure what to do but I have held my tongue for over a year and I have been polite and as helpful as I can be but it's getting too much now.
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