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Why is it all such a f**king battle.....(32 Posts)
Totally fed up and upset. As some of you know we have been planning to do ABA with dd for some time. For various reasons getting started has been a real struggle. And now, when I finally thought it was all going to happen, with tutors in place and workshop date set, 2 of my tutors have dropped out which means basically we only have 1, who can only do part time. So either we can't do the program or I will have to do a lot of it myself and really, I'm not a good teacher (too impatient), or I have to set about looking for tutors all over again. Believe me, it took months to get this far.
Have to say at this point I am just about ready to throw the towel in. Why should it be this hard just to help my daughter learn more? I just feel so p*ssed off that I should even have to consider taking all this on myself - why can't the effing state provide her with adequate therapy and education?
It is so just bollocks.
And bollocks to no swearing too - as Jimjams said the other day, anyone who thinks you don't need to swear doesn't live my f**cking life.
don't give up. It'll be worth it in the end. All I can do is encourage you as I have no experience of what you are going through. You are a mother doing her best for her child and that's why it's worth the fight.
Well done for doing so well so far, here's hoping it all comes together again!
HITC I'm so sorry you're having such a sh*tty time of it. I wish I had some practical advice but I know very little about ABA. I agree with your point about why should we have to arrange education for our children all by ourselves. The system is cr*p.
Oh HITC!! Crap, crap, crap . And you sounded so positive on Saturday.
I know it sounds like climbing a mountain but try to muster up some more strength and find some more therapists - you can't do this on your own. You need to be able to be a Mum without having to spend all your waking hours doing therapy. Don't give up - this is your baby you are doing this all for and that's what will make it worth it if you can have a good go at it.
I agree you should all get much more support with your children's education and needs than you do!!
Take care babe, sending positive vibes (and HUGS).
Oh mate, I'm so sorry. Wish I had something more constructive to say other than BOLLOKS.
Tomorrow is another day mate, curl up in a ball and hide under the duvet tonight and come out fighting again tomorrow. i know you shouldn't have to but you do, and you will. What doesn't break you makes you stronger right. (Just trying to help, hope you take all this in the right way) TC x
HITC - you swear away, you are right it is bollocks
It is all so draining isn't it?
Really hope you manage to sort something out!!!
Thanks ladies - just having a really bad day. (I did go a bit overboard on the swearing didn't I ? )
I know what you are saying IG, I do just want to do what is best for dd - but I can only do so much, you know.
Socci - we were only planning to do 15 hours a week initially anyway, so with 2 tutors dropping out we are down to 6. Its just not going to work.
Ah well, tomorrow I will pick myself up, get on the phone and start sorting it out I suppose....
Start with 6- we do less than that and he is moving through theprogrammes (obviously would be faster with more hours).
My mouth is like a sewer- but if it wasn't I'd be hospitalised with high blood pressure- it's got to come out somewhere (trying to tone it down now I have a speaking, copying child (ds2!) but it is hard when my glasses have been ripped off my face for the oh so hilarious 6th time that day and landed in the even more hilarious wee puddle- contact lenses tomorrow- but somehow "fiddlesticks darling" doesn't do it!)
swear swear swear away!! I would as well if 2 tutors had dropped out. You'll find more though and start with 6 hours (and for god's sake don't make yourself do therapy if you don't want to- aba is hard work!)
When it all comes down to it you really can only do your best, which you ARE. You are a fabulous Mum to W but you do have to take care of yourself too.
Hi HITC so sorry you are having a nightmare time with your tutors, hope you find some fab ones soon who have the commitment and understand just how crucial their role is!
The title of your thread sums up being a mum to a special needs child unfortunately, I really hope things get sorted soon, look after yourself xx
Swear all you like HITC, seems to go with the territory .
Hope you get it sorted.
HITC, I'm so sorry to read this! What an utter pain in the backside (how refained!). When is the workshop set for? Will you go ahead anyway, if you can get more people or not? The reason I am asking is that I have some time on Wednesday, why don't we have a brainstorm and I will spend some time on the phone or sending emails trying to dig someone up for you. Have you made an "advert"? I'm good at that! Please let me spend some time doing this, I've got the time and I think you're at work then. Shall I phone you tomorrow for a quick chat? I've got your mobile number (which sent me a foul text message on Saturday from somewhere called Brighton I believe ). My usual email still isn't working so I'll email you from my Yahoo address. I agree with Jimjams about doing the 6 hours but I expect its a question of the workshop and making the most of it (video it btw anyway).
Davros- sorry to hijack- I need one of your general helper adverts.... please please pretty please
I didn't think about the workshop, bummer.....
Okey dokey, will "rush" one to you... tomorrow morning OK? What are you up to? Is it for DPs? Will email you about PECs thingy.
OK, hijack over!
Looks like we're off to the PECs thingy
oh tomorrow's fine- no hurry at all I've been meaning to ask you for weeks- thank's davros.
Davros you are a gem amongst gems . Will give you a call tomorrow.
btw - text message nothing to do with me (well, okay, a little bit, but that Lou33 had something to do with it too ). We were talking about you - but only in a good way. Honestly honest.
HITC, I sent you an email last night but its bounced back. I think I've got something wrong with your address, but you haven't got mine as its not working! I'll CAT you with my temp email address.
HITC hope davros can help. I remember the pre-school years well, you could have read my ramblings if they hadnyt been deleted. But I found it soul destroying and frustrating to say the least.
Talking about toning down swearing.....I must do the same. Ds announced on saturday that: He has 'blue' dreams, he wanted condoms from tesco toilets (actually asked for them but to be faor I think he thought they were sweets), his dad was a little git and that he was 'going for a shit' so yes i think we need to sort our language out too!......No-one phone social services
HITC, so sorry to hear this. What a nightmare love. I agree- start with 6 hours and let fab Davros get on the case. I know a couple of therapists with free time but all in Brighton . Will CAT you. Hope you're feeling more upbeat today
ps DD started with only 3 hours for a few months before we even had a workshop. Then we only built it up gradually so don't worry. ONce you start you feel as if you are getting somewhere. Really looking forward to hearing all about W's progress! She's a poppet
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