DD shouting at me every morning after breakfast mystery!

[JakB]

DD much better now after mouth scenario and has been really quite chirpy. But this week, after breakfast, she's been really ratty. Literally shouting at me really purposefully with a sort of 'nah, nah, nah' vocalisation and eye contact (to really get her point, whatever it is, across). Have tried more food, a drink etc. Any ideas? Oh they wonderous mysteries of the non-verbal autistic child!!!!

[Blossomhill]

It doesn't still hurt a bit does it (her mouth).
Have you tried showing her, her pecs if she uses them?

[JakB]

Well, I did wonder about that but it looks fine and it's only at breakfast, not all mealtimes? Yes, she does use PECS and has a visual timetable but she still shouts throughout!

[beccaboo]

This must be so frustrating JakB. Is there anything in her routine that's changed - eg. did you always used to read her story/put on the tv/take her to the loo or something after breakfast?

[Blossomhill]

Is she angry or just wants to make a point IYKWIM

[JakB]

HA! She has the spirit of her mother! Probably just making a point. Well Beccaboo, the in-laws have been down and they did start to bring her down for breakfast earlier than I would (I usually leave her in her room with milk while I get everything sorted). Maybe she prefers that?!!!

[Blossomhill]

Yes sounds like the change may be upsetting her JakB!

[Jimjams]

What were your IL's doing immediately after breakfast? Did they say something the same each day? When ds1 does this he usually wants us to say/do something specific (so for example if my mum dished up pancakes- she then had to go and stand in the same spot in the kitchen or he'd get very cross). She may want you to say " good girl you've eaten your breakfast" or whatever they used to say (or did they give a drink at a certain point in a sequence or something? ds1 will never start eating until he has a drink in front of him even if he isn't thirsty - just shouts "i an een i an een" whilst hitting himself over and over again.

[JakB]

Well, problem is, Jimjams, that I don't get on with them brilliantly. I don't know of any specific thing they did that dd has taken on as a routine (I was tearing my hair out doing five hundred other things, glad of the help, you know how it is). And if I ask them, they'll take it as a criticism! Think I'll have to 'control' the situation a bit more next time. I can't just leave them too it...